So you have a sex dream- what does it mean? Is it the result of desires, unresolved issues, anger, secret or unconscious wishes? Most likely it is nothing! For the most part your dreams are nothing but mental garbage! You had a slew of dreams last night and your brain is programmed so you don't recall any of them. But we sometimes recall the last one of the night or the very anxiety provoking ones. Our anxieties do infiltrate our dreams so those dreams where your boss is sstrangling us might reflect a grain of your reality. But sex dreams?
Dr. Oz gave bad information today. Sex dreams are not only normal but they do not predict anything. Rarely can you control who the hell you are having sex with. Ten years ago I had a sex dream about our next door neighbor "Old Bill," who was about 90 and had at least ten cats. The worst part of the dream is that it was great sex. I had outrageous fantastic sex with this old man. My poor husband kept asking me to invite Old Bill over for dinner like we used to do. This dream was so vivid I could never look at "Old Bill" in the face again. I was tempted to ask him "if it was as good for him as it was for me" but I ended up ignoring the poor old man until we moved a year later! Why did I dream about Old Bill? Was it some secret desire? Not at all. I probably went to bed a little amorous and that very night I remember that David was outside cleaning our pool and talking to Old Bill. It is all normal. Enjoy them now because as you age you will have less and less of them.
Wouldn't it be great if we could program ourselves to dream about great looking sexy people and have a happy ending? Most of the time we wake up before that point! Thankfully sex dreams mean nothing. Straight sex, gay sex, sex with strangers and sex with people you know and the worst, sex with someone strange. A few years back a student told me he had a dream that he had sex with older woman who served him his cafeteria meal each day in high school. Hundreds of pounds overweight, mole on her face with a billy goat beard, he told the entire class he had crazy-good sex with her. But this was topped by another students who anxiously waited for my office hour to come and ask me what I thought of his sex dream: he dreamed he had sex with a dog. "What's wrong with me?" He asked.
"Nothing," I told him. "The first good thing is that you feel disgusted and the second good thing is that you didn't go to the pound and adopt a dog." Dr. Dawn Marlena Hopper