Consider this- women will not rape for sex nor pay for it. Do you know of any woman prowling the street corners looking for able men to have sex with them? She needs to have her head examined. Ask any female what she would rather have- a new pair of designer shoes or a night with a good looking sexually able man. Hands down, I know the answer. In looking for fundamental differences between men and women researchers have found the differences staggering. For the benefit of my more research orientated audience I’ve included some reference aids in parentheses next to the statements I deliver.
Come to Pornatopia! The research on men and sex is plentiful. Excuse me, I should qualify this statement; the research is usually conducted using college students, usually freshman. Sex drive might be considered the motivation to engage in sex and men do possess much more. Men think about sex more than women (Oliver and Hyde, 1993). Males experience more unwanted and intrusive sexual thoughts (Byers, Purdon, and Clark, 1998; see Baumeister, 2010) report more sexual compulsive thinking and need to control it (Vanwesenbeeck, Bekker, and van Lenning, 1998), have more spontaneous events of desire; sometimes several times a day while females report only a few times a week (Beck, Bozman, and Qualtrough,1991; Knoth, Boyd, and Singer, 1988). Men also report much more fantasy having over twice as many sexual fantasies per day (4.75 vs. 2.00) than do females (Jones and Barlow 1990) and they masterbate more.
Young male college students seem to have more sexual fantasies about females then do females have about males, fantasize more about multiple partners, think less of commitment, will have sex after a shorter period of time than will women, will have less standards for woman they want to have short term sexual experiences with but still opt for the most attractive females, enjoy cues to promiscuity more than females, avoid females who want commitment (Schmidt 2003). Men are more permissive, have a greater acceptance of intercourse, premarital intercourse, extra marital intercourse, less sexual guilt and anxiety although the authors of this analysis did report that over time the attitudes of females is approaching those of men. Males also appear to desire more sexual variety, desire more partners over time, engage in sex with more partners (Schmidt, 2003) and while pursuing short term liaisons will lower a standard (Buss, 1994). Men are more willing to have sex with any level of attractiveness in a partner whereas women desire a highly attractive sexual partner.
Men report the desire to have sex with almost every person that is willing regardless of attractiveness or status (Baumeister, 2010). Research shows that men want more sex with more partners and many say they would have sex after knowing a woman for just one hour. Even though we are no longer or mothers daughters in that we can enjoy sex without repercussions we still face our grandfathers’ biases. Men who hump and jump usually do not form a high opinion of their partner and would hardly ever consider this female as anything but a fling (Buss and Schmidt, 1993). And then we have the hormones! More T (testosterone, more sex drive). According to Bruce Ellis and Donald Symons (1990) men look at porn and women read romance novels.
So there it is. Men are wired to be more sexual. Now I am going to throw two things at you that few have seen or recognized. With all this supposed sexual energy and the drive that these researchers tell us exists, how come men fall in love and are as faithful as women and how come they are ripped apart more by jealousy than women?
Then there is another thing everyone has missed except for Roy Baumesiter- It's a biggie- Women can have sex a lot more than men. They need an erection we can simply lay there. We are the only animal that is completely receptive, pregnant or not, ovulating or not… we can have sex a thousand times a day if we wanted to. And I know why. And I also know how this serves to enslave men, or our man. If we know the rules….of sex and love. Dr. Dawn M. Hopper