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So confusing! The scientific truth is that there is little reliable research. I just read a book review where some woman conducted her own experiment and delivers her say on the matter, without any scientific reasoning behind her common sense rules. What she did was to dupe 90 women into thinking they were dating a man, profiles she created. She catfished them all and her lack of ethics in doing this makes me question anything she might say.
"I also wanted to learn everything I could about my competition. So I created profiles of 10 male archetypes and spent a month as these men, interacting with 96 women, researching their methods and scraping data from their profiles." From http://www.cnn.com/2013/01/22/living/online-dating-amy-webb/index.html "Data, A Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating To Meet My Match," By Amy Webb, to be published January 31 by Dutton.
OMG, are you kidding? I've got a lot to say about algorithms used by dating sites. Unfortunately dating-sites are not keen on giving anyone access to what they know. But there are scientists in Universities, real ones, who number crunch and pick through the BS. In the next series of articles I'm going to tell you the truth. I only hope those women she catfished come forward and those sites investigate. Anyone could be out therecould be pulling an "Amy."
I'll give you the second rule: Identify the person. Try to date people in your area. Google their names. If you don't see their names anywhere, be suspicious. If you find a job listing, call, ask for them and listen to their voice- just to make sure of their gender. Speaking about gender try Gender Genie on Google, you paste some interaction in and they spit out the gender of the writer.
If you cannot dig up this person on the internet - don't go on. More about this later but this leads to the best way to identify--meet as soon as possible.
The first rule? Have boundaries. That means getting rid of desperation, that is your worst enemy and perhaps the most difficult to tackle. Keep on dating! Dr. Dawn Hopper