tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post8884057130355443384..comments2023-03-23T05:20:43.763-07:00Comments on Sex and Love 100...: Friends with benefits-Girl TalkDavid's wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17468157675342425570noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-19175299370330608392011-12-18T17:54:59.561-08:002011-12-18T17:54:59.561-08:00I think that having a friend with just benefits is...I think that having a friend with just benefits is too tough. Only because feelings can develop and in the end feelings are at risk of getting hurt. I have never had this kind of relationship with anyone but I just don't think its as beneficial or even worth it in the end.eishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00747501639081504723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-53298650772516071602011-12-18T15:50:35.398-08:002011-12-18T15:50:35.398-08:00friends with benefits work, they absolutely work! ...friends with benefits work, they absolutely work! when two people are too busy to be in a relationship and are both ready able willing and upfront about it where is the harm?? there is absolutely zero harm in a mutual agreement for sexual favors all hours of the night or a quick "meeting" before your actual meeting... <br /><br />FWB have rules and regulations just like any normal friendship! Bring them to the table and make sure both parties are happy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-57935285948290441662011-12-17T16:00:07.537-08:002011-12-17T16:00:07.537-08:00There is NO such thing as friends with benefits. I...There is NO such thing as friends with benefits. I have too many times seen my friends get hurt and ultimately rejected over what they thought was harmless sex. But, when you think about it, first off, it's not safe! If there are friends with benefits, how many other "friends" does each partner have? In reality... probably more than just you. Or, if both people have made it a plan to only sleep with each other as "friends" and no one else, either way, they are committing to one another and making this decision to exclusively sleep with one another and no one else. When someone is there at the end of the night to comfort us, feelings WILL develop. Also, engaging in sex creates hormones and chemicals in our brains that we cannot control; feelings and attachment to some extent is inevitable.Merissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04242237873751995926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-52777279206697966772011-12-15T00:48:19.807-08:002011-12-15T00:48:19.807-08:00I agree completely with this, their is rarely a go...I agree completely with this, their is rarely a good outcome after become fwb with someone. Usually the friendship comes to an end after things become to awkward once they start a physical relationship together. I had this one girl come on to me before trying to be fwb, i never hung out with her before or really even talked to her so it seemed a little weird. I never did hang out with her and shorty after she ended up telling me she liked me. I had no feelings for her at all but, i ended up giving her advice and told her if she has feelings for a guy to never try being fwb to get him to be with you. He will always just see you as a booty call and his emotions usually won't go any deeper then that.JohnnyCupcakeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01663249731235961577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-92166380053978867262011-12-14T15:46:01.021-08:002011-12-14T15:46:01.021-08:00Friends with benefits is the worst thing ever and ...Friends with benefits is the worst thing ever and is the predicament I am in now. The guy I am FWBs with doesn't want to date me, but I am not allowed to date anyone else. I love this guy, but for some reason he just doesn't feel the same way about me and trust me I have tried everything to get him to actually love me and let me tell you, you really cannot buy love. Some days like today it really gets me upset that he doesn't care about me (he says he does, but I really don't believe him) and then other days I'm just like cool screw him, can't wait to see the look on his face when I am not there. This is the worst emotional roller coaster I have ever been on. It is so hard to get out of this cycle because it feels like emotional abuse just getting torn down every day so I need to do something and change it. I need to be with a guy who treats me good, not someone who couldn't even remember to say happy birthday without being reminded. wow it feels good to get that off my chest!samantha_nicholehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12438134445832178030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-75430115122075817492011-12-13T06:50:47.075-08:002011-12-13T06:50:47.075-08:00Friends with benefits can be good for the moment b...Friends with benefits can be good for the moment but i have experienced this and someone always gets attached and they end up hurtBloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04140370617222057716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-84670879329730067572011-12-13T06:48:58.336-08:002011-12-13T06:48:58.336-08:00Being FWB will never work no matter what because s...Being FWB will never work no matter what because sex is intimate and if you're already attracted to a person physically and you are having sex, most of the time, someone will start to have feelings.kp782323https://www.blogger.com/profile/16673751790419797203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-18939259599371415942011-12-12T20:08:54.690-08:002011-12-12T20:08:54.690-08:00Friends with benefits almost never works. The whol...Friends with benefits almost never works. The whole point of it is to get with someone that you want nothing to do with emotionally. At the time it might seem like a good idea, but one of the two usually gets emotionally attatched and wants to be more then just a booty call. Long story short... dont do it. Your just going to end up putting your emotions in a wild roller coaster ride.Andrew Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04268138755697154585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-813328908834259992011-12-12T18:09:08.643-08:002011-12-12T18:09:08.643-08:00fwb is a horrible thing. Not only is it being dis...fwb is a horrible thing. Not only is it being disgusting, its just you playing with your feelings and not truely settling down with someone. It is very hard to be fwb with someone and not gain any sort of feelings for them. When i was young i thought it was cool if you had a fwb, but now that im older and more mature and actually like having a girlfriend its just different it is not the same as having someone really be there for you when you need someone. All a fwb really is for someone to really get the satisfaction of being around someone..Thats what i thinkStevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00930900833485824158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-63779048416014653152011-12-12T15:29:00.728-08:002011-12-12T15:29:00.728-08:00Being FWB is pretty much the same thing as being i...Being FWB is pretty much the same thing as being in a relationship, and I think it mostly happens when a girl wants to date a guy who refuses to admit he’s in a relationship. He wants to say he is single and free. Meanwhile, no guy is going to turn down a girl proposing no strings attached sex. I know that is what my experience with FWB was. When me and my girlfriend were broke up we did FWB, and other than me buying her nicer presents for her birthday, and admitting she is my girlfriend, there was no difference. While visiting my girlfriend at college, I usually am exposed to overhearing girl talk; it’s kind of hard to avoid it in a dorm room. One of her roommates was discussing with the others whether or not she should be fwb with this guy she likes. She decided she was going to, and admitted her plan was to be fwb for awhile, and since he is a nice guy, they would start dating after awhile. It didn’t work out. This may have been my girlfriends plan too, so whether this is a successful strategy, I don’t know.timea12306https://www.blogger.com/profile/00744354158512490474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-88655439865736488682011-12-12T13:09:19.259-08:002011-12-12T13:09:19.259-08:00It is not possible to be fwb with someone and neve...It is not possible to be fwb with someone and never gain feelings. There will always be some type of feelings towards that other person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-82871553076890748792011-12-12T10:59:19.675-08:002011-12-12T10:59:19.675-08:00I believe people can have sex and not bring emotio...I believe people can have sex and not bring emotion into it. They will have to make an agreement to stay that way, but in the end there will be some emotion in it. The recent movies that came out about this topic are both really amusing but both seem bogus. It will not be easy and the emotion in the end will probably be jealousy, because when the sex stops someone will still want it. It will not be easy but if both just want to screw around then it might be possible.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12299295094728165057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-81088068136664791902011-12-12T09:57:23.864-08:002011-12-12T09:57:23.864-08:00This maybe true that it is near to impossible to b...This maybe true that it is near to impossible to be friends with benefits with someone, but there must be an exception to the rule right? there is defiantly people out there who can have sex without developing an emotional attachment to the person. I know a guy who can sleep with a girl for months and not give two shits about her, as there might not be something right in his head but he would be the exception to this rule. there must be girls out there to that are only physically attracted to guys and that why they sleep with them, because as far as i understand girls dont just look for psychical attractiveness in someone they want a relationship with, the person must also have an emotional appeal to them. so the rule to fwb not work for the long term is probably true for the most part but there is always the exception to the rule.t-cooper6https://www.blogger.com/profile/06981988385340655234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-77212605185386985232011-12-11T17:42:59.521-08:002011-12-11T17:42:59.521-08:00UGH! I hate that term! A real friend would never a...UGH! I hate that term! A real friend would never agree to that because a real friend wants what's best for you. And when a girl agrees to do that with any guy it's because she's lonely or is scheming to make her "friend" fall for her. Unfortunately hollywodd makes this seem almost attainable and even romantic.<br />It's sad to see girls have no confidence in their ability to attract someone who will want them for more than just casual sex. And any male that conducts in that kind of behavior really needs to stop and think about how much damage that can do to a woman. It's extremely selfish...Hannah Barkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08108710778633500841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-47407964726678798882011-12-11T17:29:09.510-08:002011-12-11T17:29:09.510-08:00Friends with benefits can work. I think the type o...Friends with benefits can work. I think the type of sex that the (male/female) have with the partner can cause the other person to catch feelings. In this relationship you are not supposed to have sex with this person like you would with your (boyfriend/girlfriend). You should treat it as you are trying to get an orgasim and that only. If one person starts to have feelings then they should let the other person know so it can stop instantly. That shouldnt occur if you just get yours and be friends, do not make it more than what it is.Daylight$1https://www.blogger.com/profile/10426961247011463228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-85951092282493378762011-12-11T13:10:25.604-08:002011-12-11T13:10:25.604-08:00The fact that Friends with Benefit never works bec...The fact that Friends with Benefit never works because one person always end up wanting more is true. I have seen these many times and have had a couple of encounters myself. It never works out as planned, and if someone gets upset or hurt, it ruins the whole relationship in general. I have watched this through my friends and personal experience and I find it not worth it at all. If there is sex involved I believe that feelings must be involved too whether you believe it or not. Eventually, either you or the other person will get hurt, and I think friends with benefits is not worth it at all, and in the blog it proves that in retrospect there is no such thing, even it seems like a good idea, in the long run you will realize it wasn’t.MB25https://www.blogger.com/profile/07366244351527130822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-77618271215237952852011-12-11T12:30:03.346-08:002011-12-11T12:30:03.346-08:00Friends with benefits is an absolutely absurd and ...Friends with benefits is an absolutely absurd and foolish idea. it's a Hollywood fantasy that is completely impossible to be pulled off. Eventually, emotions will develop and if the other person doesn't have those emotions too,then you will quickly become jealous and feel dead inside. I've had to explain to one of my cousins, who is also one of my closest friends, that he was being absolutely stupid and childish for even considering being friends with benefits with someone.Tyler Yonkershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18080575544213401161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-20750643072250092582011-12-11T10:30:48.189-08:002011-12-11T10:30:48.189-08:00Friends with benefits.....now thats a topic I'...Friends with benefits.....now thats a topic I've thought about a lot. I've always wondered, how could it work? how do you stop yourself for falling for them? My last boyfriend and I started hanging out and he told me that he didnt want a girlfriend at the time. I was crushed because I knew that I had already started to develope feelings for him. He asked if we could, "continue doing what we were doing" I was guessing he meant being friends with benefits. The fact that someone I had feelings for asked me that crushed me and I played it off cool and said "yeah of course" because I was afraid of losing him completely. That didnt last very long because I told him I couldn't and that I had developed feelings for him and I gave him an ultimatum and said "it's all or nothing" and it worked, we ended up dating for around 6 months. It ended for reasons we both couldn't help but I do believe that we'd still be together today if we could have.karleynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02823190327975576324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-82715319049872503452011-12-10T21:42:43.951-08:002011-12-10T21:42:43.951-08:00I never understood the friends with benefits thing...I never understood the friends with benefits thing, if you are sleeping with someone without a commitment, you are basically being a doormat. It seems that guys that are only looking to sleep with you "late night" or "once and a while" are either embarrassed of you, or want to be able to have their cake and eat it too.Friends with benefits never works. Who would want to do it anyways? When you are done doing what you are doing, you are just left feeling empty.love5489https://www.blogger.com/profile/06739732196381786981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-29454556963835467012011-12-10T18:37:28.540-08:002011-12-10T18:37:28.540-08:00I am on the fence with this one. I think it may w...I am on the fence with this one. I think it may work for a select few people, but I personally can't think of somebody sexually unless I do already have feelings for them--I'm REALLY not into flings or one night stands. So for that reason I don't think it would work with me, but I know there are plenty of other people who don't feel the same way, and probably could accomplish something like that. It's a possibility anyway.Ptoridactylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02881057697566290562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-42062100038227980292011-12-10T16:22:53.652-08:002011-12-10T16:22:53.652-08:00I've never been friends with benefits with som...I've never been friends with benefits with someone, but just like in all the blogs about attraction and love, it talks about men being attached. I feel like I'd never be able to handle seeing someone for a period of time without being in a relationship. I'm a very attaching person, and it's hard enough just trying to start a new committed relationship without getting attached too quickly.Cody Giffordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04776314056581423284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-2027830828754115152011-12-10T13:55:12.158-08:002011-12-10T13:55:12.158-08:00I totally agree with you. There is no such a frien...I totally agree with you. There is no such a friend with benefit and friend with no benefit. Friend is a friend. A friend is the one who care about you and wish the best for you, and help you when you are in trouble, and be next to you when you happy or sad, not looking to sleep with you. I think that sex is making love and everyone should do it with their lover not with a friend. When I hear about friend with benefits, I ask myself, how their relationships going to be when each one finds someone else.Nadeen Ahmedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06131455704421749423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-360614617377143632011-12-09T08:37:13.205-08:002011-12-09T08:37:13.205-08:00the whole concept seem logical in theory having a...the whole concept seem logical in theory having any sexual desires fulfilled with "no strings attached" but in practice it wont ever work its just not the way people are ment to functiondrazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06258374645663440269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-52998301605504588642011-12-08T20:02:50.806-08:002011-12-08T20:02:50.806-08:00This can be a hard thing and I think in order to d...This can be a hard thing and I think in order to do it you must be a strong person and be with another strong person.I keep hearing how women are usually the ones who have the emotions but I think it can happen wither way. Men have emotions to and I know plenty of women who have and can do the FWB thing. Is it right? that's not for anyone to say but the people doing it.Angela Leinfelderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04155641963919269505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5467334768781245423.post-79654857380118408982011-12-08T09:39:26.732-08:002011-12-08T09:39:26.732-08:00My response to this topic is very simple. It doesn...My response to this topic is very simple. It doesnt work. Someone will always end up getting hurt.People who say their only "friends with benefits" are just in denial about how they feel about one another.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com